The idea of authentic presence is that when you are engaging with someone you are truly present with them. If we look in the Book of Acts we see the early church living in community. They were taking care of one and other. They were providing for each others needs. They were present for each other. For many today I think the idea of authentic presence is a lost art.
Wil Hernandez in his book, Henri Nouwen and Spiritual Polarities, describes three things that we need to practice in order to be authentically present with others. These three practices are solitude, hospitality, and prayer. Nouwen would talk about this in terms of our inward, outward and upward focuses.
In solitude we are able to best understand who we are. To be present for others you need to be present with yourself. As you become better at understanding yourself you are better able to relate with others in a deeper, more intimate way. To be authentically present. If you remember how I am using the word authentic, authentic presence is where the other can truly sense that your are there with them and for them.
Carla Dahl in her book Becoming Whole and Holy, defines hospitality as “the ability to create a space in which others can recognize and experience the presence of God.” When we are authentically present with others we should be creating a space where they can feel you have a genuine concern and/or connection to what they are saying. You in a way have become “God’s ears” in the conversation.
In prayer we deepen our presence with God and in so doing we create an environment for ourself which can then be used to create a sense of hospitality for others. If I am being true to myself then my relationship with God needs to be reflected in and through my authentic presence with others.
I have just given a brief introduction to each of these practices: solitude, hospitality, and prayer. In the future I will come back and flesh them out in greater detail. In the mean time here are three things to think about as you practice the art of authentic presence:
- Spend some time alone getting to know yourself
- Create an environment of hospitality where God is center stage
- Take time to cultivate your presence with God